Complaining

I have a gilded life, I live with a wonderful man, I have 3 relatively normal children with no major issues. We have enough money to buy what we want when we want it. We have nice friends (when moving house we pushed ourselves out of our comfort zone and socialised pretty hard to make new ones in our new area). We have loving family. No health issues, a world full of possibilities. AND YET, I STILL COMPLAIN!!!

First world problems.

I complain about co-workers, I complain about drivers who get in my way, I complain about pedestrians daring to cross the road when I want to drive on it. I complain about an achy muscle when I’ve worked it too hard. I complain about feeling tired when I stayed up late to watch a great film. I complain about the weather, I complain about my shoes, I complain about complaining friends, I complain about people pulling out of plans. I complain about business travel.

I am actually a very positive person and feel completely in charge of my own destiny. So why do I choose to waste so much energy talking about stuff that doesn’t matter – I will almost certainly not think about ‘it’ again in a week or two.

I plan to focus on complaining less and understanding that people do their best and mean no harm. I don’t think this is an aim for perfection type of goal, more of a ‘I can improve on this’.

Does behaviour change emotions or do emotions change behaviour? The two are interlinked but if we can spend a little more time focusing on what we do want in our life rather than what we don’t the world would be a much more productive and positive place to be.

Complaining less starts now!